Establishing Healthy Boundaries

We’ve all had that feeling of someone being too much in our personal space but did you know that you can also be invaded by the energy of others without even being consciously aware of it? And this absorbing of other people’s energies can actually affect you in a very negative ways. The boundary I’m talking about here is your energetic boundary or aura – the energy field that surrounds you and which is made up of your thoughts, emotions, personal history, even energy patterns/karmic patterns carried over from past lives.

Signs of a Weak Aura

If your aura is too weak, you can become easily overwhelmed by certain people, places or situations as you struggle to maintain your own centredness. You can become confused, unable to think clearly, irritable or sad. Some people become overwhelmed by visions, bad dreams and negative premonitions. Insomnia is another side effect of weak boundaries. Some people become overwhelmed with other people’s emotions and can feel like they’re on a roller coaster.

If your aura is weak, on the positive side it means that you have great sensitivity and great empathy with others, which can be useful to those with a healing, caring, therapeutic or psychic profession. On the other hand, if you are absorbing too much emotion and other psychic information, it can be too overwhelming to the point where you are unable to separate yourself from the other person and process the information at all.

Signs of Too Impenetrable Boundaries

A person with too thick a boundary can appear insensitive to the feelings of others. They can display a lack of empathy and understanding. They may be very self-contained and single minded of purpose but will most likely struggle to form real meaningful emotional connections to others. They are less likely to dream or receive psychic information.

Signs of a Healthy Aura

A person with a healthy boundary will be able to stand firm in the face of criticism or abuse and will recover more quickly from traumatic experiences.

What Weakens the Aura

A person’s aura becomes weak through shock, trauma (including relationship break-up, bereavement, major surgery), abuse, neglect, physical or verbal attack, especially if these are long term issues. Bullying has a very damaging effect on the aura, chipping away at more of your personal power with every attack. Medication, drugs and alcohol abuse can all take their toll on a person’s energy field, as can being indoctrinated/brainwashed with negative, limiting beliefs while you are growing up.

How to Repair and Strengthen the Aura

To help detach negative energy and entities, cleanse your aura with a selenite wand on all sides of your aura including above your head and round your feet. To repair holes and tears in the aura, hold an amethyst crystal and go round the whole aura again, setting the intention to repair and seal the aura. If you are aware of where the holes and tears in your aura may be, circle the hole itself with the amethyst crystal.

You can also do a meditation connecting to pure white light shining down from above, bringing it down and visualising beams of white light shining through each of your chakras and swirling round your whole energy field. White raises your vibration and will help you rise above other people’s negativity and other stressful situations around you.

Once repaired, get into the habit of visualising yourself in a bubble of protection (gold, blue or violet) every morning and during the day if needed and make sure you ground yourself regularly so you’re not living in your head too much. Grounding can be anything that helps you feel connected to the earth – walking, running, exercise in general, gardening and spending time with uplifting, supportive people.

Healing treatments such as Reiki, Spiritual Healing and Crystal Healing will also repair, strengthen and rebalance the aura. I offer all of these treatments in Nottingham city centre or East Leake, so please don’t hesitate to contact me if you feel I can help.

Helen Shortland is a Reiki Master Healer/Teacher, Holistic Therapist and Spiritual Development Coach based at City Gate East in Nottingham city centre, NG1 5FS and in East Leake. Helen offers several healing treatments such as Reiki, Spiritual Energy Healing, Angelic Reiki, Faery Reiki, Angel Therapy and Crystal Healing; holistic therapies including Reflexology, Indian Head Massage, Foot Massage, Hopi Ear Candles & Facials; as well as Usui Reiki and Faery Reiki training courses and angel card and tarot readings. She has been on the spiritual path for 18 years and has extensive knowledge of healing and the healing journey. For further information about her Reiki courses, therapies and workshops, please visit her website http://helenshortland.com or visit and ‘like’ her Facebook page Helen Shortland Holistics, Healing & Spiritual Development.